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Pot smoke hurts me again, I need some support

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  1. treepeo
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    Hi Everyone,

    I am just coming off 3 days of struggle.  Why?  Because once again, just walking outside, minding my own business, I inhaled the exhale of someone's pot.  And once again, it caused me to have major cravings.  I just don't get it.  I can inhale smoke from someone's cigarette, and I am fine.  And I was never a pot smoker, so why it is having this effect on me is a mystery.  But holy cow, this is what is happening to me.  I didn't say anything when it was happening, because this new site rolled in, and people were having issues adjusting.  But I realize that I could use some support.

     I don't want to be a hypocrite.  I smoked outside all my life and subjected people to that, even though I knew it wasn't exactly fair to do so.  And I don't begrudge  cigarette smokers who are smoking outside, because where else can they smoke these days?  But honestly, this pot smoking is a real problem for me.  The government can say all they want that they are going to regulate it, that you can only smoke it in certain places, etc., but the genie is already out of the bottle.  Do they really think that pot smokers are going to abide by the rules?  I think not.

    My first year anniversary is December 29th and I want to be able to celebrate.  I intend to stay smoke free.  But I have to say, the cravings I had were very intense, and I had to talk myself out of giving in a lot.  It scared me, it really did.  My biggest weakness in this journey was always physical.  My lungs ache something awful when I crave, to the point of pain, and it is extremely difficult for me to fight against that. I really resent having to deal with that kind of pain at this point in my quit, because I have worked so hard to get here.

    I could use a little help from my friends.  Please give me a boost.  I am trying to stay positive, but this experience is really bringing me down.
  2. lithan44
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    Hi Treepeo.  I am so glad you shared your struggles with us.  Your ONE YEAR anniversary is around the corner - focus on that.  Remember all of the hard work you did throughout your journey.  I want you to remember that you recently felt the same as your are feeling now.  You posted in the old site of experiencing the same physical reaction to pot smoking.  I also want you to read what you posted on Sept 15 - "I'm happy to report that when I woke up this morning, the ache in my lungs was gone and I felt happy again.  And I went to a festival after work today, and thankfully I didn't pass any pot smokers, probably because there were cops all over the place!!!
    I want to thank you all for your support.  Mud Man, you are such an inspiration to me.  I watch your numbers grow day by day and I think, "That's how it's done!"
    Vix1976, I know you are just starting out, but you have such a great attitude, I just know you are going to succeed!  Thank you for being so kind and encouraging.  It really means a lot.
    And wimporswim, you are my quit buddy extraordinaire!  I wouldn't have made it this far without your help, my friend.  I think of you as my Guardian Angel.  You and I started this journey together, and we are going to keep each other company for as long as it takes. 
    Let's all KICK SOME BUTT!!!" 

    See, my friend?  You kicked butt before and will again.  The physical ache will pass.  Keep your toolbox fully equipped and acknowledge the feelings and resentment and all around crappy feelings that pop up.  They come but they also leave.  You have always inspired me with your positive remarks on the Quotes and how you continuously support others.  Focus on yourself and channel the negative feelings into a positive response and post post post!  Remember how great it felt to read:
    "Hi, Treepeo!  I know I speak for many of us on this site - you really are a wonderful supporter and motivator to many!  I am 467 days into my quit and I log in daily and look forward to reading your posts.   I remember when I first began my journey to become smoke-free, it was people like you that kept me focused and held me up when I struggled.   And for those newbies out there - it does get easier and so worth the struggle in the beginning!
    Stay strong my friends!
    JanJan"

    AND...

    :As the self declared president of the Treepeo fan club, I second JanJan's motion to extend a big THANK YOU to TREEPEO!!! You are there for many of us and your posts are always appreciated. I believe you are also a godsend to those just starting out on their quits with your advice, compassion and insights. You were an awesome quit buddy right from the start for me and am sure you have many more fans here. We got this Treepeo. Thanks again. Wimporswim"

    And I will paste this, to remind you of how AMAZING you felt when you reached the 200 Club!
    "“I have just joined Club 200, and I must say, it feels really good!
     I remember when I joined this site.  I looked at the zeros on my quit meter and I thought, "Gee, I would be happy if I gained even one day of life."  And look at me now.  I have gained 27 days of life, and there are many more to come.  My breathing is so much better.  My heart doesn't pound when I climb a flight of stairs.  I no longer worry about having "smoke" breath.  My clothes and my apartment smell fresh.  I have a lot more time on my hands.  And I have a huge sense of accomplishment.
     After 43 years, I have become a non-smoker, and quitting is the best thing I could have ever done! 
    I have now gained 31 days of life.  A whole month!  Isn't that great???
    And now my days are so much better.  I didn't realize just how much stress I was going through as a smoker.  I no longer worry about my heart starting to pound.  I no longer worry about having bad breath and stinky clothes.  I don't have to worry about when and where I will be able to have my next smoke.  I no longer feel guilty and ashamed.

    Being a non-smoker has been so liberating, it's incredible.  What a wonderful gift I have given myself.  I am so glad that I decided to quit.” 

    Look at you!!  You are so self-aware, I have no doubt that you will KTQ!  I am here for you, Treepeo!  Hugs.

  3. paul, quit coach
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    Hi Treepeo and Lithan, as well as everyone in our community. I couldn't think of anyone else I would want as my fan club president, as well as such great support team members that Lithan mentioned.

    Congratulations on sticking it out Treepeo! It's always difficult to face second hand smoke, especially if it still makes you crave. We know that there are many people who are concerned about next year's changes to the laws governing marijuana use, and yours is very much a legitimate concern. 

    The good news? You did find a way to maintain your quit. That speaks a lot to your character and motivation to live a smoke free life. Hopefully these types of situations will become fewer and all 2nd hand smoking laws will be shaped in such a way as to prevent you, and many others, from feeling the same temptation. In the meantime, we hope you feel proud of being able to keep your quit.

    Best wishes for everyone out there tonight, and again tomorrow. One day at a time.
    Paul

    Thank you for sharing, and 
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  4. wimporswim
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    Once again Treepeo you are being tested - and again, you do not deserve this pain.  But!!!!!!!! - You are a Super Hero and as you advised me, back awhile ago:  " You and I started this journey together, and we are going to keep each other company for as long as it takes. 
    Let's all KICK SOME BUTT!!!"   Well, I'm still game if you are!  Hang in there my friend!  I can tell from many of your posts how committed you are,  how positive you are, and how time and time again you have overcome obstacles.  And you will also prevail this time!  I'm still your biggest fan! 
  5. treepeo
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    Hi lithan44,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to give me such a thoughtful response.  It is always helpful to remember where we started from, and celebrate how far we have come.  I guess that people who smoke pot are always going to be my Achilles heel, and I am just going to have to learn to deal with it.  It sure isn't going to go away.

    Thanks to you and Paul for giving me a much needed boost.  I feel lucky to have so many people that I can rely on while I live my life as a non-smoker.  Support truly means a lot.
  6. wimporswim
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    I just want to extend a big Thank You to lithan44 for your amazing, and timely, response to my quit buddy Treepeo.  I will never forget it.
  7. lithan44
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    That is what we are here for - to always support each other.  Love to all.
  8. treepeo
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    Hey wimporswim,

    It's great to hear from you, my friend.  How have you been doing?  I'm sure you've had your share of struggles, but you never seem to post about them.  I am so glad that we did this together and that we both persevered.  Remember how we both said that we each felt it was our time to quit?  Well, I guess we were right, and thank goodness for that!  You know, when I struggle, I often think of you, and I tell myself that if you can keep going, so can I.  And really, at this point, we would be crazy to give in to any urges we get.

    Having said that, I realize that I still need support from time to time, which is why I am so grateful for this site.  And you're right about lithan.  She really touched my heart by going to so much trouble in her response to me.

    I think we are all oh so lucky to have each other.  Thanks my friends, you rock!
  9. onyx
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    Great job on getting yourself through that craving! You've got this... You'll make it to a year without any problems, and continue on. Hitting that one year smoke free anniversary makes you feel like King Kong on several hundred gallons of coffee. lol
  10. ocean
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    Way to go Treepeo, you have to ask for support instead of bottling up.  I just saw this now and my heart was in my throat because I didn't want you to relapse.  Sometimes there are no second chances so we have to persevere and help each other.  And I'm so grateful that others heard you and talked you off that ledge, so thanks Lithan and Wimporswim!!  Even though you're so close to one year (when is it again?), you'll still have to battle it one day at a time.  It really helps to keep it as simple as one day, right?   I hope you're feeling better Treepeo, keep up the good work!  I admire you so much and you've been an amazing support to me and everyone.  You are a role model!  No pressure though, lol!
  11. brieffree
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    H Treepeo

    Last day I went out, cross the street and some one come in front of me smoking something, When he passed me the smell come to me, that was Not a tobacco. That was Marijuana. Ho!Good Lord!

    I said to my self in high voice Huack! was Horrible and I continue.
  12. lillian, quit coach
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    Hi,

    Well Brieffree, that is completely fantastic, it doesn't pull you to smoke does it? You dismiss it so well!

     We all have our own set of challenges and how we approach them. All of you should be very proud. You are working on change in the face of hardship, battling it out and supporting each other. This entire discussion is so insightful and helpful all due to you, your openness and generosity in sharing the realities of this change and how it feels. As other situations come up, I hope you continue on to share them as well.

    Kudos to all of you!


    Lillian
  13. treepeo
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    Thank you so much, Ocean.  Yes, I am absolutely fine once again, thanks to my friends here.  I mean, I had no intention of giving in, but I knew that support would be invaluable, and it never hurts to connect with people who are going through the same things you are.  That's why I love this site so much.  We all learn from each other's experiences.  We help  each other through the rough patches, and celebrate all of our victories, be they big or small.  This is one rockin' community, and I am both lucky and proud to be a part of it!
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