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19 hours smoke free and hurting

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  1. lisa black 257
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    I am extremely determined to quit smoking, this time for myself and nobody else. I want to live a healthier life for my family and friends. I had my last one 19 hours ago and the stress of quitting is actually keeping me awake. I just went to the store and bought a pack of smokes as a safety net. Seems if I have them the urge lessens. My habit was around 10 a day and for the past week, I documented every time I would have one so I can change some habits. My father in law passed away on Friday and it is a bit of a stressful time, but if I can stay away from it through this I can beat this. Any support is greatly appreciated!
  2. brieffree
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    Hi Lisa

    How, I am happy to hear you are Determinate, Congrats, Be prepare, get rid of all smoking around you!

    Drink plenty water
    Distract yourself from the crave
    Go for a walk
    do something instead

    You are so worth it! you can do this! 
  3. treepeo
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    Hi Lisa,

    It's great that you have decided to quit smoking.  Your determination is going to make the difference, because you have to be more stubborn than your addiction.

    When I quit, I still had the better part of a carton at home.  I kept them where I could see them, and my mantra was, "I am choosing not to smoke".  That worked for me, but on the flip side, it would have been very easy to give in in a moment of weakness.  So see how it goes for you.

    You will always face stressful situations, Lisa.  Learning to deal with them without lighting up is a learning process.

    Do whatever it takes to stay strong.  And believe in yourself.  You can do this.
  4. lisa black 257
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    yes absolutely! and I have been visiting numerous sites on tips and when I had quit the last time about this time last year I kept a diary of every time I had a cigarette, and the second week I changed habits and i cut myself down to half a cigarette at a time, but my husband had come home, he was working out of town and he wasn't ready to quit yet so it was difficult with him smoking and i started back up. This time when he comes home he said he will not smoke around me or in our vehicle to help me :)
  5. lisa black 257
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    I chose to quit this time at a very difficult time, a gentleman I called my second dad passed away on Friday and my husband is out of town for a week....but I decided I am going to be extremely stubborn and if I can quit during this difficulty I can definitely beat this. My smokes are right beside me...I'm keep my enemies close lol. When I want one I look at them and I realize what a little roll of tobacco can do to run my life, not this time, I run my life now. I used to love jogging so I am taking that up again, been years, so right now it's a quick paced walk until I get back into shape for it! I am getting plenty of fresh air and I love water so drink plenty. Thank you all for your support and I am thankful I came on here to ask for support :)
  6. efreeman75
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    Hi Lisa - Congratulations on your decision to quit and welcome to the Community.

    Take a look around, you'll find lots of tips and tricks that I don't need to reiterate.  Treepeo summed it all up - you need to be incredibly stubborn.  You have more power than a piece of paper stuffed with tobacco.  You have the will to do this.

    I also used to really enjoy running.  When I first quit, I again started to run to distract and burn off some stress.  It was also motivating to graduate from a brisk walk, to a jog, to 5km, 10km, ...  Also helped to keep any weight gain down.  My son and I did a charity run on Father's Day this year - that was incredible ( I let him win!!!).  There is so much to be gained by quitting.  I know it sucks in the early stages, but it is so worth it.  We're all here to support each other.

    E
  7. lillian, quit coach
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    Hi Everyone,

    Lisa, I am really very sorry about the loss you and your family are experiencing right now.

    You have picked a tough time to quit and yet at the same time it may be that this is exactly the right time to focus on this. What we value most sometimes is only highlighted during the toughest of  times. You want to live a healthier life. This is for you!

    So with all of that determination, with the support of your husband(very considerate taking it outside) and as you can see with the support of this community too, exercise, tips and strategies, you are doing this..

    All of which can definitely add up to success for good. You can do it.

    Keep us posted,
    Lillian
    Last modified on 20 Nov 2018 17:59 by lillian, quit coach
  8. shazzan
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    Well you/ve got my support Lisa.
    This site has good people you can lean on. Lots of great advice and experiences to read about and learn from. 

    I am glad to hear that your hubby will be considerate and smoke away from you. It didn't bother me personally , but if it had i would have asked him for that consideration Who knows, when he sees you doing the quit he may decide to too. Ultimately the quit must be for yourself /himself so no sense in nagging him to quit. It only works if you are willing and have the desire to become a non-smoker. My hubby is reading Allan Carr's book to quit  and at the end you are supposed to happily extinguish your last cigarette and celebrate your freedom.

    The right frame of mind is a key to an easier quit in my opinion.  I hope the worst of the cravings or little naggings as i equate them with are getting further apart. Rest is important as your body is working to rid of the toxins and nicotine. Drink plenty of water to aid this process. Keep a positive outlook and work into your old jogging routine.  You are going to love the new improved you!
  9. treepeo
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    Hey Lisa,

    I am so glad you decided to hang in there.  Good on you!  You are so right.  It's amazing what those stupid little rolls put us through.  I used to be so obsessed with smoking.  What was I thinking?  There is a whole world out there just waiting for us to explore it.  Let's get our priorities straight and say goodbye to this horrible addiction.
  10. rosie1931
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    Hi Lisa,

    Welcome to the forum.  And yes, you are right, you have picked a difficult time, but you do seem so very determined.  That will go far.  I've said that it's easier to jump the small hurdles before we attempt the big ones, but you are doing great.  We've always looked at cigarettes as a friend, to help us through the boredom, the stresses of every day life, and the celebrations.  No friend has ever stuck by us that closely or was with us every single moment of every day.  But that friend was killing us, and we quitters have decided that we have to kill the friend first.  We have the upper hand in this, as we get to make the choice.  Good luck, be strong, be positive.  All the best.  
  11. loveintheflow
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    You got this!!!
  12. merline, quit coach
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    Hi Lisa,

    Please accept my condolences on the passing of your father in law.
    I’m glad to hear that you are smoke-free despite the difficult times you are currently going through.

    Congratulations you do seem very determined !

    Lisa unfortunately you may need to go through the stress of quitting and of some withdrawal first to get to that more relaxed place. Keep in mind that mood changes are common after quitting smoking. You might be irritable, restless, or feel down or blue. If you have these feelings after quitting smoking, there are things you can do to help lift your mood.

    Stay active 
    Any kind of exercise can help—taking a walk, going to the gym. This can be hard to do when you are feeling down, but making the effort can pay off. 

    Talk
    You don’t have to deal with stress alone. Share your feelings with friends, family, and other important people in your life who are able to support you in staying smoke-free.

    The Rewards of Quitting
    Now that you’ve quit, it’s a good idea to keep track of the benefits that you’re getting from not smoking. Make a list of your rewards as you go, keep it handy, and refer to it often – especially when cravings hit. For example, “I feel less out of breath when I take the stairs” or “I’m saving money every day.”

    Aside from the benefits, remember to reward yourself for your progress. Rewarding is one of the most important things you can do to help yourself stay on track especially when you're going through difficult times.

    Everyone finds different benefits to quitting. What are yours? Share with other quitters on Smokers’ Helpline Online, you can also call us at 1-877-513-5333 (toll-free).

    You got this Lisa !
    Merline


    Last modified on 03 Dec 2018 13:08 by merline, quit coach
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