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1. dedi

   

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   hi , i celebrate my 2 months yesterday, and right now im mad at my boyfriend,really have hard time to control my stress,i just want a cigarette,pfff! its my first big stress, the first time since a quit,i think just about having a cigarette,i try to change my mind no the idea comeback all the time, im crying right now its so hard because i just dont want touch that poison anymore...oh my God its hard,because i comfuse ...god help me
2. ocean

   

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   Hi dedi,
   Be as mad as you want because you know it will pass.  But returning to smoking isn't the answer because it won't do anything to make you feel better, and will make you feel worse in the long run.  So get that energy out anyway you can, run, call a friend, suck on something cold, breathe, take a walk.  I know how hard it is when we have our first angry and emotional moments in a quit, it really shakes us up.  I had it over a week ago, and suffered through it so you can too.  Don't self sabotage though.  I'm with you on  this and I know you can do it.
   Your friend,
   Ocean
3. emily, quit coach

   

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   Hi dedi,
   
   So sorry to hear that you're having a tough time with it this evening. I'm happy you came to the website for support though. That shows how important this quit is to you.
   
   Like Ocean said, smoking won't help to fix the situation. Use the strategies that helped you get to this point in your quit, vent on here, or if you need someone to talk to please feel free to call into Smokers' Helpline at 1-877-513-5333.
   
   We are here for you.
   Emily
   
4. treepeo

   

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   Hi dedi,
   
   Congratulations on making it two months.  That is fantastic!
   
   I know what it's like to feel really stressed out and want a smoke.  Lighting up was what we did in the past.  But a big part of quitting is learning how to handle things like stress without smoking.  It sucks, you feel like you're depriving yourself, and all you want is some relief.  But smoking will not help and will make everything worse.  And you have worked so hard to get to this point.  Don't blow it now.  You deserve so much better.
   
   Go for a walk, chew some gum, call a friend, punch a pillow.  Do anything you need to, but keep the quit.  You will be so happy you did.
5. dedi

   

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   Thank you Ocean,emily and treepeo for your help ...74 days for me today and i still have some withdrawals,this week i started to have pain in my mouth  pfff! probably a gingivite, tire to have pain somewhere all the time...😪😪
6. jennifer, quit coach

   

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   Good Afternoon dedi,
   
   Congrats for your 74 smoke-free days!
   
   Sorry to hear that you are having mouth pain, we'd recommend that you see your doctor for any new symptoms/changes that occur when you quit smoking. Always best to check it out!
   
   Hope you have a great week and hope we'll see you here really soon!
   
   
7. dedi

   

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   Hi, very proud of me ...3 months today, not all the time easy specially right now, 91 days and  i feel a tension inside of my body...
8. treepeo

   

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   Way to go, dedi!  Three whole months - wow, that is terrific!  I know it hasn't always been easy.  Sometimes you really suffer, and you have to dig really deep to keep going.  But look at you!  You are such a strong person, and you should be really proud of yourself!
   
   I hope you do something nice for yourself to celebrate this wonderful milestone!  And keep the quit, dedi!  You deserve a great, smoke free life!
9. ocean

   

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   Hi Dedi!  I'm so glad to have seen this post!  You're one of the people I always think about as we're just a few days apart in our quit dates.  I'm so glad you didn't give up!  I hit 3 months in 4 more days, and I feel great at the moment.  But I get so discouraged from time to time, still!  Yikes!  I had an amazing conversation with some ex smokers tonight who were so insightful.  They were telling me how early three months is in the grand scheme of quittting for life, and to try and not get so discouraged because there are many craves to come, and that you'll keep learning how to cope with them so that they dont upset you as much as we feel now.  They said you'll hit a point when you get cravings, but don't get upset by them and that this is when it feels like victory.
   
   My challenging times are pretty much at the same time of day (4 - 7pm).  When I've cracked up, it's always been at these times.  But I just took up the walk to quit program, and I feel so darn good after, and it just happens to be between 4-7pm twice a week.  So I'm elated that I have another coping strategy.
   
   We can't get rid of stress, but maybe we can try a bunch of things to beat it so it doesn't steal the motivation from us.  I'm slowly learning to keep adding on to what I started on January 15th.  Some days I;m not in the mood and am miserable.  But others days I just make myself push a little harder and then feel such gratitude. 
   
   And Congratulations to you on 3 months!!   I'm so proud of you, girl.  Keep on taking it one day at a time so you don't panic and make it bigger or longer than one day is.  We smoked so many cigarettes in our lifetime, we desrve the rewards of our quit.
10. dedi

    

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    Thank you to both of you treepeo and Ocean, yes sometime i dig very deep treepeo because my body hurts and like ocean i get so discouraged sometimes.I started to take 150 mg of magnesium a week ago because i had no energy ,it help  i think....the doctor recommended blood test, now that stress me, i can wait to see the result. A big congratulations to you too ocean because you did very good,and feel just like you someday it’s terrible the stress and i can wait to see the end of those symptoms...its take all my energy ...so tired
11. lillian, quit coach

    

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    Hi Dedi,
    
    You have so much to be proud of. Congratulations on 3 months quit!
    Certainly hope that the energy and symptoms subside soon.
    
    Lillian
12. dedi

    

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    Hi,105 days today...i went to see the doctor fir a blood and urine test,blood test ok but my urine test they found little bite of blood...pfff! now i stress...so i had to do an another one 2 weeks after, still blood but less then the first one, should be a good news for me, pfff! no now my doctor ask me to do a cytology urine test to look uf a have abnormal cells....noooowwww my stress is high..why i asked for those tests...im so depress now,i had problems with my gum last month...pfff! never stop...ijust want to be like i was before i quit, happy with full energy, not like i feel right now, sad with no energy......
13. treepeo

    

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    Hi dedi,
    
    A big congratulations on your 105 days!  That is really terrific!
    
    I am sorry to hear that you are having problems with your gums, and that your test results weren't ideal.  I know it's really stressful to go through medical tests and to have to keep waiting for results.  I can understand why you have a lot of anxiety.  But dedi, it would be so much worse if you were still smoking.  Smoking damages everything inside and outside of our bodies, including our gums and teeth.  So quitting smoking will only help to improve your dental health.
    
    As for the blood in your urine, unfortunately you have no choice but to go through whatever tests the doctor recommends and wait for the results.  I know it's hard, but try not to assume the worst.  Sometimes our imagination gets the best of us.  There is no use worrying about what we can't change.  Eventually, you will find out what is wrong, and then you can work to tackle it.  But again, whatever the problem is, smoking will only make it worse.
    
    Please try not to associate smoking with good things.  You would have had these problems even if you were still smoking.  But now that you stopped smoking, you have a much better chance to fix any health problems easier and faster.
    
    Try to do something fun this weekend, anything that you enjoy and that will make you happy.  You need some cheering up!  Be good to yourself, dedi, and keep the quit.  I am rooting for you.