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  1. efreeman75
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    Congratulations Fisher Guy.  You're really racking up those months now, and enjoying all the various events and seasons as a non-smoker.

    You got this!!!
  2. Fisher Guy
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    Hi everybody. . Just  got back from our fishing camp. Well the 7thmonth of not smoking has come and  gone. Feeling happy that days go by and I don't even think about smoking, But to be honest there are day it still hits me. That is when NOPE comes in and I think about something else. I am seeing a lot of new members on line, and am proud you have chosen  to join  us in our smoke free journey. I will talk to everyone  in the near future so keep up the  good work and stay strong.
  3. dublinguy
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    Great to hear from you Fisherguy and even greater to hear how well you are doing. Hope the fishing camp was good, you deserve a treat after your 7 months hard work. And now you are an inspiration to the new members starting off on their journies.
  4. Fisher Guy
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    Hi to all my  . The 8th months has come and gone. My buddy who smoked also asked if I still  get urges, and the answer was yes. They arn;t as bad as they used to be but some are intense. .Nope works for me. He has been smoke free for 7 years and he still wants to taste a cigar every now and then.  Hope you all have a great summer and see you at 9 months.
  5. optimist
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    Well so good to hear from you Fisher Guy because I was on the point of saying something myself.  First, congratulations on your 8 successful months.  I'm in my 1st month and these urges of which you speak are the bain of my existence.  Unlike you, I can't say I've been successful 100% of the time.  The difficulty I'm having with NOPE is that it demands perfection.  The only workable "good enough" is absolute perfection.  That's unfortunately just the nature of addiction.  Essentially it means that no matter how sh***y I feel or how powerful the urge, I cannot give in, not even once.

    Now I've come far enough that I feel "damned if I do and damned if I don't".  Not smoking is uncomfortable to awful, while smoking causes me to feel guilt and anger at myself, not to mention fear of the harm I'm doing.  Trying to get beyond my feelings, I review my reasons for quitting - and I certainly have some compelling reasons - and practice the D's.  I've even sought counsel.  On and on it goes.  Is there some big secret to success that I'm missing?

    Thank you all for listening.
  6. optimist
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    My response to myself for my previous rant is "Suck it up, Buttercup".

    And Fisher Guy, kudos to you for 8 weeks and counting.  Awesome.
  7. dublinguy
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    That's wonderful news Fisherguy.
  8. jb63
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    Congrats on 8 months Fisher guy. That’s something to celebrate. Enjoy your summer
  9. efram, quit coach
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    Hi optimist,

    Re: perfection, yes, sure, that's the end goal, but it's also good to recognize progress along the way. Looking at quitting as a learning process, imperfections (slips) can be looked at as opportunities for learning and growth. I forget where I heard the phrase "progress, not perfection," but it makes sense to me, and hopefully thinking of the quitting process this way can help take some of the pressure off. 

    About success: think of how far you've come already, compared to a month ago -- that's a lot of cigarettes you haven't smoked, and a lot of success that you can continue to build on, one day at a time. 

     
  10. optimist
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    Hi efram,

    Thank you for sharing your perspective.  Progress vs. perfection seems like a much more balanced and helpful approach.  So that's the approach I've adopted.  Seems to be working.  And so on I go.....
  11. efram, quit coach
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    Hi optimist,

    You're welcome! I'm glad that the approach seems to be working ... makes me feel, er, optimistic! 
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