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  1. quitfriend
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    Hi everyone. I have just started another attempt to quit smoking. I am a little nervous about it because of the withdrawal symptoms ahead and my many failed attempts. I need to remind my self that this is a new quit and not to get too far ahead of my self. It is manageable in the present moment. I have my nrt and this forum and my family for support. 

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  2. quitfriend
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    Still anxious. 
  3. atp
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    quitfriend,

    It's good to be anxious about your quit - that shows that you really want to quit. 

    It took me nearly 25 years of quit attempts (some were halfhearted, others failed because I wasn't as ready as I thought) to finally get to my most recent quit that started on January 01 this year. We learn from our past attempts and use that to help us. Yes, the withdrawal is hard, my last quit I was so hating it that it became a bit of a motivator to not want to slip to avoid going through it again. 

    Take it one day at a time. 
  4. justfortoday
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    Hi quitfriend!

    I'm glad to see you here!

    I have so much admiration for your determination to not quit your quit! Something is never a failure if you just keep moving forward, right?

    I totally get the fear, the anxiety, and anticipating the withdrawal. It just sucks. It was these reasons alone that caused me to not only delay my quit year after year, but it was always my reason to start smoking again.

    This time was totally different. I knew in my heart that smoking was no longer an option in my life. In order to become the non smoker I wanted to be, I would just have to get through the battles.

    You sound like you have a strong plan in place and that was huge for me.

    Happy you're here ... we can do this.
  5. quitfriend
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    Thank you both for your replies. 

    I smoked again but all that accomplished is having having to go through day 1 again. After reading old posts I have truly accepted that I am an addict. Withdrawal and cravings are a sign of healing. I hope I can persevere. 
  6. quitfriend
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    Darn. I’m still smoking. How do I get to the point where I decide that I’m all in on the quit?
  7. atp
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    quitfriend,

    So you've slipped and you're having a hard time getting started. No big deal since you are still here and still wanting to quit. 

    I had a few times where I said I would quit, but I broke down smoking before the first week was up. I just wasn't committed. A couple of times many years ago I also tried to quit because my wife was pushing me to quit and those fell apart within the first day or two, and who knew a non-smoker can pick off stale smoke from a mile away, so she knew. 

    I don't know how, but at some point I just said enough is enough and if I'm gonna do it then I need to be all in. I also did it to get my son to quit with me (he did), but in truth I really quit for myself. I read up on everything about quitting, signed up here, bought a bunch of nicorette gums, mist and patches. On my second day I decided that I was done with the nicorette as well and if I was going to quit then it was going to be all in - cold turkey. I came to terms with the fact I was an addict to smoking, that helped in understanding it. I think that is the moment for many smokers - you decide that you are done and somehow push through those first few days. 

    I'll tell you - now I wish I had quit many years before. What seemed like the hardest thing to give up, my friend and constant companion the cigarette, now is something I want nothing to do with. I am free of the addiction. 

    Dig deep and find your motivation. I can tell you want to quit, you just need to convince yourself that you can do it. 
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  8. justfortoday
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    Hey there quitfriend,

    Please don't beat yourself up. You will decide … in fact, I think you already have. You thought about a plan, and you are here. That says something.

    I remember how scared I was to just take that leap of faith and do it. I did a lot of reading to understand exactly what was (going) to happen and secured my quit plan accordingly. Before I quit I started to put certain things in place … things to turn to when I would normally have a cigarette. For example, I made a ritual of making loose leaf tea after lunch, made smoothies for driving in the car, had a hot shower after dinner, etc. In a sense, I had somewhere to go instead of just "getting" through the craving.

    One thing I did to really determine if I was "ready" to quit, was write two lists. One listed "who" I was as a smoker. The smell, the shame, wrapping myself up like a homeless person to go out in sub zero weather to have a cigarette before bed, as well as the horrible fear of it being too late. The second list was "who" I wanted to become as a non smoker. Clean, free, empowered, creative, self caring, and strong.

    This was enough for me to endure the battle. And it wasn't easy, but six weeks in and I've never felt better in my life. In fact, quitting smoking has shown me I have the strength to embark on other scary things I might not have as a smoker.

    Whatever you decide, whenever you decide, know that we are right here, ready to help you along the way.
  9. quitfriend
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    Thank you atp and justfortoday for your understanding and encouraging replies. Thank you for sharing your experience. 

    I have taken a few days to think things over and have done a bunch of reading about quitting and some writing. I have set my new quit date for Monday. I’ll do some more preparation but I think I am ready to stop poisoning myself. 🤞
  10. justfortoday
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    Hello quitfriend!!I

    I love how you've prepared yourself... It sounds like you really want this, and that is going to give you strength for sure!

    No matter what .... good, bad, scared, rejoicing or slipping ... just reach out and know I'm right there beside you.

    Try to be gentle and take extra special care of yourself.

    Remember that you are stepping into recovery and I don't know anyone who has said recovery was easy.

    In the early days of my quit I did my best to imagine someone I loved going through the process of withdrawal and asked myself how would I try to comfort this person. Would it be a tea, a blanket and a movie or maybe a hot shower and a nap. Whatever it looked like, I would do it for myself. And it really does help.

    I'll be thinking about you tomorrow!




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  11. efram, quit coach
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    Hi quitfriend,

    As today is your quit date, I just thought I would let you know that the Quit Coaches over here are all cheering you on as well! You are determined, and you have so much going for you: a plan, support, effective tools, and, maybe most importantly, that decision that you've made now to stop poisoning yourself!

    Atp and justfortoday, you've given excellent support and advice, thanks!

    This could be a good time to rid yourself of any lingering cigarettes, if you haven't done so already. Remember to take some deep breaths, and to giv'r!

    Regards,
    Efram 
  12. jeannie_ca
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    I to have decided that To QUIT smoking 
    enough is enough I’ve had sinus infections cough strep throat now it’s time to say that’s it I’ve smoked for over 40 years and can’t take it no more it gets harder and harder when I have a cough 
    I use to think smoking was cool when I was 14 no more it’s not cool so many people I know how given up smoking and I to want to give it up I am not letting cigarettes ruin my Health
    So as of October 14, 2019 I have given up smoking and I am going to fight this
  13. jenna lee, quit coach
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    jeannie_ca,

    It has been 10 days, hope things are going well for you. 

    Jenna Lee
  14. quitfriend
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    Here I go again. I am giving quitting another try. I can picture myself as a non smoker and I feel determined. Reading the posts on here again has really helped. Thank you all for sharing your wisdom and experience. 
  15. regulusa
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    I’m quitting also tomorrow! Good luck to you maybe we can help each other!
  16. justfortoday
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    We're all here to help you out!

    Good luck to you both tomorrow and just reach out for support whenever you need it.
  17. regulusa
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    Well made it through the better part of my first day as a non smoker, and I was surprised at how smoothly it went, I have only had a few cravings. Worried about from now until bed as this is usually the time I would smoke the most. Just trying to keep distracted...
  18. treepeo
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    Hi regulusa,

    Congratulations on making it through your first day.  Yes, definitely keep busy to keep yourself distracted.  And try to get a really good sleep as well.  It takes energy to fight this rotten addiction.
  19. justfortoday
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    Hi regulus!

    Nice. That's one day behind you and that's huge. And as treepeo said, keep distracted and get as much sleep as you can over the next little bit.

    Something that helped me was trying not to "anticipate" the craving. For example, if I knew I was going to have a wicked craving after dinner, I'd make a plan to do something else (for me it was googling recipes for Moroccan dishes ... no idea why ...). That way I had an immediate "go to" after dinner and found I didn't anticipate the craving as badly as I might have.

    I think it's natural to be worried about the times when we would smoke and finding that healthy replacement takes a bit of time. And it can be done!

    We are totally with you through this, regulusa!
  20. regulusa
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    Thank you all so much! Lots and lots of emotions last night, but went to bed early and tried to get a good sleep. Thanks for all your support!
  21. justfortoday
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    Hi regulusa!

    Well done! You're staying on top of your quit and soon it will get easier.

    The emotional rollercoaster is hard ... I remember coming home from work and going straight to bed (at 6:30), and I cried and cried and cried some more.

    Give yourself permission to feel whatever shows up.

    You can do this, regulusa. One hour at a time.
  22. regulusa
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    Thanks justfortoday, I was the same last night and tonight too, that’s been the most difficult thing so far.  Just trying to keep it together. Off to bed now I think 
  23. quitfriend
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    Hi regulusa. I was just wondering how you are holding up. 

    Hi everyone. I have made a few more attempts to quit and have only succeeded at cutting back. The longest that I have been able to make it is 6 hours lately. Today I conquered many cravings until my husband got home. Then I caved. 

    I have made some changes to my morning routine which include reading, mindfulness meditation and yoga. Morning has proven to be a tough time for me on previous quits. So I’m hoping that I’m prepared for starting my quit first thing in the morning. That’s my plan anyhow. 
  24. sdgman
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    My quit date is set for tomorrow.

    I'm pregnant, 26 and eagerly want to quit for the health of myself and baby
    I have double depression, anxiety and cptsd, which are managed very well as I've gone to therapy and taken the medications necessary. I'm proud I've come that far, but now I feel what's left to my healing journey is to beat this awful addiction.

    I'm tired of waking up each morning with a sore throat, phlegm and always reaching for the cigarette pack right upon waking up. I used to wait to have my coffee made before having a smoke, but somehow I stopped that habit, thankfully, and don't get triggered (as much) from drinking coffee.

    I'm tired of seeing my grocery bills decrease because I would never budget for cigarettes as I always plan to quit. It's awful, but I'm really just done with this addiction. I don't want my child to have health issues, I want the absolute best for baby and especially now that I'm expecting my first child, it's more of a motivation to quit, I just need to find a really good way to quit and I still haven't yet.

    I'm hoping this website can help, and these forums can help. I'm hoping that the stressors in life can subside for a while just to get me through the first few days at least (somehow I have the bad luck charm, and a lot of life challenges get thrown to me so often, it makes it so much more difficult to quit smoking).

    Ive been smoking since I was 19, so 7 years now, and I'm smoking 20 cigarettes a day. I don't want to smoke anymore, I just want to get better and give my life and baby and even my partner, a better life by kicking his addictions butt.

    I did well with decreasing my nicotine amount with a vape in the past, but since the news had shown many kids and adults being hospitalized from vaping, even for a short while, I decided to stop and throw that out. I've tried nicotine replacement aids in the past, and I don't think I try doing that during my pregnancy. I've spoken to my doctor about anything I could do or take during pregnancy to quit but she said there was nothing but trying to quit cold turkey.

    Quitting cold turkey is very difficult for me. My withdrawal symptoms are awful. I become extremely irritable that I lash out at anything my partner does, even if it's not reasonable. Sometimes I become very sickly, and feel as if my body is about to shut down or I get almost like a flu where I sweat, my body aches and I feel nauseous. It's horrid so I feel as if I'm at a brick wall for options at this point, but I desperately want to quit before baby arrives. And at this time, I need to quit to help save more money for baby supplies.

    Anyone else around thats pregnant and need someone to use as a distraction? If so, maybe we can text each other? It would be greatly appreciated.

    Looking back, the best way for me to get it off my mind is to talk to someone for a while. Being around non smokers and doing things or talking, is really the best thing that I can recall from previous attempts or situations where I was hiding the addiction from extended family members. I need more advice and help from people. There's not a single bit of support from family, but I do have my non smoking partner that's very supportive.
  25. jenna lee, quit coach
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    hi sdgman,

    Thank you for sharing your quit history and current smoking situation with us. You are certainly welcome to get support here from our members, and we can also provide text support if you need a distraction, which you can opt into on your account page (for ON, PEI and SK residents). OR you can text iQuit to 123456.

    Additionally, https://www.nicotinedependenceclinic.com/en/pregnets is a great site for smoking and pregnancy. 

    Hope you find the support you are looking for. In your post, it is clear that you are reviewing what works for you, what does not work for you, you are reaching out for support, reviewing your options for smoking, etc....so many strengths!

    Best,

    Jenna Lee
  26. justfortoday
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    Hi sdgman!

    Welcome, and congratulations! A baby … so exciting!

    I'm really glad you shared your story with us, and I have huge respect for your honesty. It seems you have had to cope with a lot, and the great thing is, you have! Dealing with depression, anxiety and cptsd takes tremendous strength and I believe you have that in spades. My daughter, who is only a couple of years older than you has struggled with mental illness and today she is a proud mother of two beautiful daughters and has never been happier.

    So, to begin, know that you aren't alone in this. The people here will be there for you as long as you need. I've been given the support and sound advice that I believe has been a huge part of my quit. Your determination, this site and other tools will help you succeed.

    Cold turkey is hard … not to say it can't be done, some of my hero's on this site quit cold turkey. For me, it wasn't the way to go and after a week of hell, I caved and smoked. I decided to use the patch and I'm happy to say I'm now 2 1/2 months smoke free and on the final stage of the patch.

    I would suggest you read / google as much as you can about what happens both physically and emotionally when quitting smoking (any addiction really). The more you understand what is happening, the better prepared you will be to face it head on. As well, "learning" in general produces dopamine in our brains … something we depended on nicotine to do for years. By retraining the brain, you can retrain your behavior.

    Another important trick I used was changing my thoughts. For example, our thoughts have a difficult time when we say or think "I can't" as this is a negative emotion. I know you understand the anxiety that can cause! So, when I had a craving, instead of saying to myself, "I can't smoke", I would say, "I want to take in four deep breaths". This is a positive thought and believe me, it works.

    I would also suggest you get a journal and write in it as often as you can. It's a great place to scream, cry, vent, celebrate, and track all of the wonderful things you are going to gain by not smoking. You get to decide who sdgman is as a nonsmoker, so try to visualize her and write it down.

    I wish I could tell you the stressors of life will subside for a while as you get through the first bit of your quit. But you seem like a smart cookie, and know that might not be possible. But let me tell you, with each day (even each hour) that you don't smoke will empower you and build momentum faster than you can imagine.  

    YOU can do this, sdgman! Your motivation is powerful. And, you do not have to do this alone.

    I'm going to check in on you tomorrow … day one … scary and exciting!


  27. regulusa
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    Hey quitfriend! I’ve been unable to be on the site for a while but I’m so excited to report I’m 54 days smoke free! Never thought I could do it and I’m so proud of myself!
    For me I was completely ready to quit. I’m pretty stubborn and wasn’t going to let smoking beat me. It was the most difficult thing I’ve done, emotions were crazy and that made it so much harder.  I know you’ll be able to do it when your mind and body are ready to say goodbye to the habit. I really believe you have to be ready on your own time.
    The great news is after close to two months smoke free, I'm completely off my blood pressure medication and that’s another huge motivator for me.
    Keep up the good work quitfriend!! You can do this!
  28. jenna lee, quit coach
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    regulusa,

    You should be so proud! What an accomplishment. Sometimes stubborness is a great personality trait when it comes to quitting smoking. 

    It is so nice to hear as well that you no longer need your blood pressure mediation since you quit.

    Happy new year,

    Jenna Lee
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