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first day, lonely ,sad, unhappy ,need your support

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  1. jordan2019
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    This is my first day quitting after smoking for 15 years , i am sad and unhappy. just broke up with my GF who by the way is the only person i know here in Canada (i am an international student). it is hard but i am still fighting. i need support, i need a friend . i cant stay alone with the cigarettes .. it is calling my name. my lips miss it, my hands miss it, my nose miss it. i have the gum and patches.. it got me through the first day..

    can i have just one more?? do i have to stop it all at once? cant i just go gradually ? :( ..i feel lost and have no one to talk to...i know my post sounds wired but im just expressing what i feel now. its 1:30am now all i want now is just go for a drive, get a hug. or just smoke.
  2. atp
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    09 Feb 2019 in reply to jordan2019
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    Jordan,

    Lots of emotions and thoughts related to your recent break-up and now quitting smoking - I admire your willpower! 

    I've tried to quit many times in the past and always failed because I took a drag or a smoke, and within a few days I was right back to smoking a pack a day. This time I quit and committed to 'Not One Puff Ever'. It has worked for me so far. 

    Try calling the helpline and talk to a quit coach. 1 877 513-5333
  3. linda, quit coach
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    Hi Jordan,

    Welcome and congratulations for making this important decision to quit! I’m very sorry to hear about your break-up with your girlfriend….You are going through a difficult time right now and you have also decided to quit, it shows a lot of strength and I admire your courage! Don’t give up, hang in there. Know that you are not alone in your quit journey, we are here for you and we believe that you can do this!

    Like atp said, you can also call us at 1-877-513-5333 and we’ll be happy to help you. Sometimes, talking to somebody can be helpful and other times, you are strong enough to persevere and rely on yourself, your strengths and your reasons for quitting. You know yourself best and you have worked very hard to get to this point. Keep going strong!

    As we know, smoking cessation can be difficult especially the first few days. It’s a big lifestyle change and it’s a lot of work, but it’s worth it. Many people will try many times and they will try different methods, everyone is different. Some prefers to reduce gradually and quit cold turkey, and others like to use nicotine replacement therapies. Each method has its own qualities that appeal to each person. You can try one approach and then switch to another one if needed.

    Remember that you are stronger than your cravings. Cravings don’t last as long as most people think they do. Sometimes, it might feel like forever, but it’s usually about 5 to 10 minutes. You can do this!

    We are happy to have you here with us and thank you for sharing your journey with us.

    Take care
    Last modified on 09 Feb 2019 16:04 by linda, quit coach
  4. stargazer
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    09 Feb 2019 in reply to jordan2019
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    Hi Jordan2019.

    I am here in Canada too. I am so sorry you are feeling so alone. I’m new to this forum. I’m here for you. I hear you and understand how you are feeling. I know what you mean by missing “it”
    my quit date is on Monday, so I have a day and what’s left of today to smoke. I’m so scared that I will fail. Like you, I feel isolated and alone because of something personal I am going through. 
    Congrats on being smoke free for one day. That is awesome! I sure hope I can make it through one day. I have asked the same questions: can’t I just have one or two or three... 6 tops a day. I have tried doing that, but, sadly, I couldn’t do it. And I tried doing that many times. 

    Someone told me. Just look at it as making it thru one day. The first few days are the hardest and I have read that what you are feeling is normal - your body and mind are fighting off the nicotine, which is extremely addicting. But look, you fought off the nicotine “beast” for a whole day, that’s 24 hours. I am impressed. I hope I can make it through one day like you did. 

    Please dont hesitate to reach out to me. I will be someone you can talk to so you don’t have to feel so alone. Okay. 

    It will get easier, so I have heard and read.

    keep on going. One hour at a time. Remember the four Ds and call the help line, and reach out to me. 

  5. heab
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    09 Feb 2019 in reply to jordan2019
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    Hi Jordan,
    This is my first day as well. I  have quit and started so many times its insane. Going gradually never worked for me and one more lead me back to a pack a day. I called the help line this morning and it really helped- a lot. If we can get through day 1- tomorrow I think we will be really happy!! One day at a time. Distracting my mind helps. Just a movie or book or game- anything..
    I have smoked off and on for 40 years and smoking has caused me SERIOUS health issues. I am ok now but smoking destroyed my health. I never thought it would but it did. We can doit-hey day coming close to an end. Tomorrow I believe we will be happy we made it through day 1.
  6. brieffree
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    Hi Jordan

    You are not Alone, Congrats in your first day, congratulations in your first day of freedom, all you feel is normal, tomorrow will be easier! IS ALL INYOUR HEAD! IS YOUR BAD HABIT TALKING

    By no time you will be thankful  to today day!

    Try to distract your self from the moment
    Drink water instead
    Go for a walk
    keep expressing yourself in positive way!
    do something around instead of thinking
    use your imagination to distract your self from the crave! it will go away!

    I quit Cold turkey long time ago! is possible you just jumped to freedom! 

    I wonder why is reason to quit!

    Please let us know, we are here to support you!

    You can do it! ONE DAY AT THE TIME!   

     
    Last modified on 09 Feb 2019 18:46 by brieffree
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