29 Nov 2017
12 Jan 2019
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I understand your concerns. The fact that your husband smokes will make things more difficult for you, there is no doubt about it. That is why your resolve to quit has to be really strong.
You know, I have some sisters who still smoke, and they smoke indoors as well. Although we don't live together, I see them often, because one of them lives in an apartment down the hall from me. When I first quit, I wondered how I would manage around them, and if I could even do it. But then I realized that that was going to be only one of many, many challenges I would face when I tried to quit. There is no way to completely avoid smokers.
Then I told myself that what I was doing was super important, and that I had to do it for me. And I couldn't worry or be influenced by what anyone else did or didn't do. It was all on me as to whether I was going to quit. And I focused on the fact that I was strong enough to do it no matter what.
Interestingly, and also sadly, none of my smoking sisters helped me or encouraged me in any way when I started my quit. I really think they wanted me to fail, so they could tell themselves, "See, it can't be done." But that was not the case. And even though they didn't support me, I got support elsewhere, including here. And I stuck to my guns.
I guess what I am trying to say, tamhart, is that you have to decide for yourself if you really want to quit. And then you have to work towards that goal, without letting anyone else stop you.
Good luck tomorrow, tamhart, and let us know how you are doing. We are here for you.