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I screwed up 😔

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  1. butterflyna
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    I  have reset my Quit date for midnight tonight.  Can't believe I screwed up so soon. Can't stop trying though. One day at a time. 
  2. atp
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    04 Feb 2019 in reply to butterflyna
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    So you slipped. Big Deal. Get back on your quit horse now. 

    Learn from your trigger that lead to the slip, and come up with a plan to avoid doing the same mistake next time. 

    You were almost 4 days smoke free. That is an accomplishment. Now go for breaking that record. 
  3. butterflyna
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    04 Feb 2019 in reply to atp
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    I can't get down on myself and thank you atp. I am back on the horse lol. Really got to look at why I slipped! God Bless you 💕
  4. mari_m
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    04 Feb 2019 in reply to butterflyna
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    Hi butterflyna, good for you that you have reset your quitdate. And use the past experience of quitting to help you through the next quit. Knowledge is power! You can do this, and the helpline is here to help. Keep moving forward, and don’t look back as thats not where you are going. And know that you dont have to go on this journey alone.  We are so glad you are here. -m
  5. treepeo
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    Hi butterflyna,

    Don't despair.  For my first attempt, I only made it to 7:00 p.m. the same day.  But it helped me to realize that I really had to prepare myself for the difficulties ahead.  I set a quit date for two days later.  And guess what?  Now I have been a non-smoker for two years!

    We all slip, butterflyna.  The important thing is that we can't give up.  We have to try and try again until it sticks.  You can do this, butterflyna.  Believe in yourself.
  6. butterflyna
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    Thank you Mari_m and treepeo,
    I believe today started off stressful and I need to work on how I handle stress. I also have to use my Quick mist the proper way. There are some issues in my apt as well. I was so gung ho. I was sure I could do it. I have to do it. I don't want to die from cigarettes.
    I slept most of the day, cried a little bit and then at 12am took a shower. I start again. One day/minute at a time. Thank you both for your supportive and kind words. I do need you all. Thanks for being here <3
  7. turningpoint
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    Hi butterflyna,

    If you knew how many times and ways I tried and failed....  This time is different though.  I feel it in my bones.

    You have every reason to keep on believing in yourself.  You did an amazing job to make it through four days, and you'll do even more amazing things. I'm so glad you're already quitting again.  Becoming a non-smoker is a process, and if you persevere in your attempts to quit, I'm confident you'll succeed.
  8. jenna c, quit coach
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    Hi butterflyna,

    As atp, mari_m, and treepeo all said so supportively, don't let a slip get you down. It is quite normal and common.  The key is that you did not let this get you down and you rebounded so quickly! 

    Realize that a lot of smokers just give up when they have a slip. They may feel uncomfortable showing it or want to find an excuse not to really quit. It's very positive that you didn't.
    Most smokers who have successfully quit, slipped a few times before they stopped.
    A slip is usually an important learning experience. It means that you need to work on something in order to succeed fully.

    Just ask yourself this, butterlyna, What would you need in order to get through a situation without smoking if you were to face it again?

    Hope this helps!

    jenna c, quit coach
  9. atp
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    05 Feb 2019 in reply to jenna c, quit coach
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    Jenna,

    In past quit attempts I usually slipped between day 3 and 5 and from there ended up right back to smoking a pack a day within a few days - basically just giving up on my quit.

    This time was different. I was motivated, yes, but I also joined this site and reading others stories, and getting support from others was was what made the difference. I wish I had something like this on earlier quit attempts, maybe I would have been smoke free much earlier. This time though I knew 'not one puff ever'. 

    So a big congrats to all those, like Butterflyna, that own up to their slips and get right back to their quit.  That takes a lot of strength and commitment to do. 
    Last modified on 05 Feb 2019 16:05 by atp
  10. marianne, quit coach
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    Hello atp,

    Thank you for sharing about how you being empowered with your motivation and support here made a difference with your quit journey. 

    Keep going strong and the light you shine to others means so much!  We always look forward to hearing about your experiences. 

    Marianne 
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