29 Nov 2017
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We have to quit for ourselves first, plain and simple. So you have to tell yourself that you are quitting primarily for YOU, and not for anyone else. Sure, other people will benefit (spouses, siblings, nieces and nephews, grandchildren, friends), but it has to be for you first.
Zelda, I have two sisters that I am in contact with more than anyone due to the fact that we live close to each other. Both smoke, and they smoke in front of me. Neither one encouraged me when I told them I was quitting. Neither one of them offered me any support at all. To be honest, it was hurtful, but I said to myself, oh well, I get it. I am doing something they wish on some level that they could do, but for whatever reason, they are not doing. And I think that on some level, they wanted me to fail, so they could say to themselves, see, how could I ever quit when she couldn't? But oh well, I DID quit, and I KEPT my quit, and now I have been a non-smoker for 14 months. And you know what? No one, not even my sisters, can take that away from me. So there. That's that.
Zelda, I bet you are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. Why not give this a real chance? How about believing in yourself and what you can accomplish? Trust me, if I can do it (and I always said I had no willpower), you can do it, too. I bet you're a lot stronger than I am. Go ahead, kick some butt, and beat this addiction! I'm rooting for you!