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Is there ever really a "right time?"

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  1. daddyb
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    Hi everyone. I've been trying to quit smoking for years, but I always run up against that question in my mind.."is this the right time?" I'm not sure if any of you also do this because I'm sure we've all decided not to quit many times because it just wasn't the right time. We feed our minds with excuses or legitimate reasons...starting a new job, wedding to go to, party to go to, whatever the case may be. But when you think of it, nonsmokers handle all those things without smoking so why can't we? 

    It's always bothered me personally that I had to be able to smoke to do something, while the nonsmokers around me managed just fine without that blue, smelly cloud around their heads. In a way, I've felt cheated. I've even avoided going to functions if smoking was not permitted, or if I had to stand out in the cold to smoke on a winter's day. I haven't a clue the number of events I've missed because of this filthy addiction, but I couldn't quit yet, it wasn't the right time.

    So when is the "right time?" Is it next week?, the end of the month?, New Years?, Monday morning?, the weekend?, Friday morning?...we always seem to have a reason for waiting. My neighbors always quit each year on January 1st. Sometimes they last a few days, sometimes a few months, but they always start up again. He swears that January 1st offers his best chance at success, however, given that they are both still smoking, I'm not sure I'd call that success...I guess it's just not "the right time".

    Tomorrow is my quit day. I chose it for very simple reasons. For one, I only had enough cigarettes to last me until tonight. For another, Friday the 13th has always been a lucky day for me. This last one is kind of crazy because I honestly believe that luck has nothing to do with it. I guess for me, it's the right time. I have to start somewhere and putting it off for one reason or another isn't going to make it happen. 

    Perhaps you've never thought of things this way, and maybe I'm crazy, but in my mind the right time, is what ever time you make it. Pick a date, set yourself up with NRT, and/or other substitutes, gather your support team around you, and go for it...it's the right time.

    Thanks for letting me unload. Here's to a life free of addiction, starting tomorrow.

    Good luck with your quits everyone!!

    DaddyB
  2. sarah, quit coach
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    GREAT post, daddyb - thank you for sharing.
    While there may never be a 'right time', sometimes people say there are better times than other.
    And you're so right: while its different for everyone, there are steps you can take to ensure you have what you need on your quit date to feel prepared.

    All the best to you tomorrow, daddyb. Nothing but good things coming to you this Friday the 13th!
    Sarah
    Would other community members like to share with us why you chose the quit date you did?
  3. efreeman75
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    12 Apr 2018 in reply to sarah, quit coach
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    Family Day - can't think of a better reason or date than that for myself!
  4. jeyan
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    Daddyb,

    right time is anytime!! Although, I think the best time is when your mind and body says it's time to quit, cause you're sick and tired of it and not even sure why you're smoking, and when you realize that you're a slave these cigarettes.:)
  5. chartippybum
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    Good job daddyb
    I hope your day is going well. I had set many quit days and they came and went sometime i wuit sometimes u found an excuse not to. I am quit now for over 1 month and i still have to take it day by day. It gets easier but its still life and life is hard. Hope you keep it up and NOPE. This site offers good support.
  6. shazzan
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    13 Nov 2018 in reply to chartippybum
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    Hi Chartippybum and Newcomers
    Congrats for making the right choice and quitting. I am proud to say i have been a non-smoker for 6 days now and never going back !   

    Many people WISH they could quit smoking, but like myself delay it  because we don't think we can break the addition.   It is like wishing to win a lottery, but do you actually believe you will win it? You are here for support in that belief and to confirm that it CAN be done. After watching  the CBQ webinar  on line for  free,  it confirmed what i am about to tell you. 

    There are steps in quitting smoking and the first one, is equally as important as the other 3 steps. You have to WANT  to quit.  Now even if you have some little doubts and do what she asks you to do during the free part of the webinar, you will come to shed those doubts. 

    Now, i have to tell you here that i was 4 days smoke free (cold turkey) and had done pretty much the same thing as what she was saying on this webinar. I would strongly advise anyone to at least take a look at it. I signed up for the second free one as well, and though i found it mostly repetitive i would again advise you to watch it. (yes she offers you a course, step by step for a cost) I do not know what all is involved, but if you are self motivated, you will figure it out for yourself. The 4 steps are really all you need. See, i am not trying to sell you anything here.  I have to admit that I quit without meaning to after taking a lung cleanse of turmeric, ginger, honey, onion and water. All the ingredients are healthy and now that i have quit smoking, i found found ways to incorporate these into my diet (soup, sandwich, curry , tea)  You can find this on line and again i make nothing. The recipes on line are all the same. I took 2 tablespoons first thing in the morning and 2 Tablespoons before bed. Please research the ingredients and /or ask your doctor if these are safe for you and your medications. 

    I started eating healthier foods and wanted to cut down on the smoking so i did so by putting them across the room. Got the additional bonus of some exercise by being forced to get off my butt. and also the delay and distract practice.  7 days later i am down 5 lbs. Not only down 5 lbs, but something curious happened.

    On the 8th day, a Monday morning i got up, put the kettle on for coffee and sat down in my lounge to play poker on line when i realized i didn't really want a cigarette just yet.   So i put it off (delay and distract) . Two hours later i had half of one, standing up in the bathroom.  It took discipline, but i only had 3 full cigarettes that day. Tuesday i had confidence that i could quit so joined this site for addition support and advice. That day i had 5. ( I was a 43 yr. smoker up to 28 or more a day. ) So I had taken another huge step towards achieving my goal. Wednesday morning i got up and resisted the urge for two hours, took 2 drags and got such a nicotine rush i had to put it out. (smoked only 3 that day) . That meant that there was very little nicotine left in my body which would mean less sever urges and less frequent. . (no matter what method you choose, you can't get around this one... withdrawl  FROM NICOTINE is one you will have to face sooner or later to some degree)  That is the only withdrawl and  that lasts about 3 days.

    Thursday morning i got up and decided to QUIT.  Quit right there and then. Why wait for my quit date in 7 days and continue on like this. I doubt i could get down to just 1, and even if i did, so what? I was ready and i WANTED to QUIT. 

    My lung cleanse is getting low now and i try to find the site to get recipe and i get a similar site (same recipe) saying how it helps to reduce nicotine cravings. Ginger and turmeric had properties that  CURBED NICOTINE CRAVINGS. Its no wonder I seemingly had less of a battle than most people.  I didn't gain weight either, because i was eating healthy and the ginger and or turmeric suppressed appetite.  Of course i was keeping busy too.( no exercise, although i should) .. researching the best foods for health. (not weight loss) I had my support team. I told my parents that i quit (after years of pushing) My spouse and daughter are now giving thought to quitting as well.  Even more rewards than i had hoped for. 

    So that is how i came to quit. The  CBQ is a must watch. She says you must do the steps in order, and  i see how it would be easier, but for those of you with NRT's or haven't done the steps I still think you would gain valuable information.  I know that even though i had gotten through the hardest part of nicotine withdrawl (with help from my tonic) which only lasts for 3 days, i still had those urges. After watching the webinar i no longer do. I did not buy her product, but i do believe in it.    I don't like that someone SELLS  a cure, but if it saves lives.... 

    I did not buy her product, so i do not know all she advises during the 4 steps. There were some exercises, but not sure if any ways to reduce cravings of the nicotine itself. Urges after that are just in your head. As they explain, we go 8 hours to sleep without the nicotine waking us , why is it so hard while we are awake?  For example:  Doctors prescribe medications to address the symptoms, but not necessarily the cause. The problem is still there. Let's fix the real problem. 

    Your best decision is /was/has been or will be TO QUIT. 
    Next was your wise decision in joining this group and learning. The 4 D's are vital. Know them and learn them, and do them!
    Your next move is to learn the 4 C's... pretty much the same as the 4 D's But CBQ program addresses the psychological mindset.  Even i found this very calming. And knowledge is POWER. 
     
    In conclusion, you have been motivated enough to have read this long (i don't know what it is, except that i so want you and others to all succeed as i have. ) I don't want jealousy , or thanks , or praise and i certainly don't want your money....and i won't wish you luck.. Quitting smoking has absolutely nothing to do with luck. I WANT  you all to better your lives by doing everything in your power to quit and keep the quit. 
  7. efram, quit coach
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    Good question, daddyb!

    I especially like your answer: "The right time is whatever time you make it."

    Thanks for bumping this thread, shazzan. You made it the right time for yourself that Thursday morning when you wanted to quit so badly that there was nothing that could stop you!

    Chartippybum, thanks for sharing too. I think we've all found excuses at times in our lives to put off making changes. Even though they were changes for the better, it can still be daunting. I'm glad that you found a time that worked for you.

    Jeyan, good tip to listen to what the mind and body are saying. Sometimes the message will come through loud and clear, and there's nothing else to do but take action!

    And efreeman75, I like how you tied in your quit date with Family Day to give you some extra motivation to follow through! 

    People quit perfectly well every day in spite of imperfect circumstances, but what works well for some may not work as well for others.

    If you're reading this and are wondering when the right time is for you, what are some of your considerations?

    Regards,
    Efram 


  8. brieffree
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    Hi Daddy

    I can tell you so many rezones to do not quit, but only one count, My Health

    When is the right time? Is the Addiction, is in your mind. is a personal question, I guess!
    It is great that you plan to quit and stick to it!
    Be strong, be prepare, enjoy the freedom!

    You can do it, go for it!
    Last modified on 26 Nov 2018 07:30 by brieffree
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