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Quitting took me a long time

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  1. atp
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    31 Dec 2018
    22 Apr 2019
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    Today, April 22, is my oldest son's 24th birthday. My first quit attempt was the day he was born. 
    It took me another 23 and a half years to finally have a quit that is sticking. I'm just a week shy of 4 months now. 

    Over the intervening years I tried to quit many times. Looking back now I see that many times I just wasn't ready, or willing, to stick it out. This last quit - I was ready and prepared to stick it out. 

    You always hear how many smokers need to try quitting several times before they succeed. Seems all too true for me. 

    So, who else had a long history with trying to quit?

  2. turningpoint
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    30 Nov 2017
    22 Apr 2019 in reply to atp
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    That would be me, atp.
    Congratulations on 4 months!
  3. steven, quit coach
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    12 Sep 2018
    22 Apr 2019 in reply to atp
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    Congratulations on your nearly 4 month quit! That is quite an accomplishment to be proud of!

    You are right, it can take a few different quit attempts before quitting sticks. In fact, it is uncommon to hear that someone quit smoking and never smoked again on their very first try!

    Are you planning on rewarding yourself or celebrating your success so far in any way? You definitely deserve it!


    Steven (Quit Coach)

  4. efreeman75
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    262 posts
    02 Apr 2018
    23 Apr 2019
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    Hi atp - congratulations on keeping the quit.

    I've thought a lot about what made my current quit stick, and all I can say is that is was my time.  Stubbornness, determination, luck, maturity, self-respect, accountability - these are all feelings which have led to my success.

    In short, the REASONS to stay quit have to OUTWEIGH the EXCUSES to smoke again.

    Last modified on 23 Apr 2019 09:47 by efreeman75
  5. mari_m
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    03 Jan 2019
    23 Apr 2019 in reply to efreeman75
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    Atp I am so happy for you for quitting nearly 4 months! Isn't it nice to be able to enjoy the nice weather, and breathe in that fresh air. Making it through the winter was tough, but we did it!! The times I tried quitting before did not last as I now realize I did not know how to stay quit. This time I read everything I could to prepare, and joined this helpline. The  info and support I found made all the difference for me, and I encourage anyone that seriously wants to quit smoking and stay quit,  to look into getting some help that is now so available.  Heres to another smoke free day! - m
  6. turningpoint
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    30 Nov 2017
    10 Jul 2019 in reply to atp
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    I'm still struggling.  However, I just came across a quote that I'm going to carry with me by a doctor who works with addicts:  "...people who value their health and well-being less than the immediate , drug-driven needs of the moment."  Now there's a stark choice!
  7. treepeo
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    29 Nov 2017
    11 Jul 2019 in reply to turningpoint
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    Hi turningpoint,

    That quote really sums it up succinctly, doesn't it?

    You know, as I battled to hang onto my quit, I remember thinking that I had to be better than I was.  That is, I could not keep giving in to the addiction, no matter how strong the pull.  I knew I had to fight the pain, otherwise the addiction would always come out on top, and my life as a smoker would never end.  And that was just no longer acceptable.  I had to quit, and I wanted to quit.

    Quitting was worth all the struggle and all the pain.  For me, the very worst of it passed after the first month, which wasn't bad considering I smoked all my life.  And quitting changed my life in so many positive ways it is hard to describe.  But I really am grateful every day that I am now a non-smoker.

    Never give up, turningpoint.  Like that doctor said, care about yourself more than this addiction.  Don't let it rob you of your health and well-being.  You deserve so much more than that.
  8. optimist
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    11 Jul 2019
    12 Jul 2019
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    Hi treepeo,

    Congratulations on fighting your way through the struggle and pain, and finally achieving freedom.  I am encouraged by your comment that your life has changed in so many positive ways.  You have earned those positive changes.  Thank you for sharing.

    The doctor's statement struck a chord with me.  The "drug driven needs of the moment" are what cravings are.  No more, no less.  I don't think that drug driven needs are needs that deserve a lot of respect from me, and I certainly don't value them above my health and well-being.  So, since reading the quote I have been able to fend off cravings (and with the help of the patch).  I think this idea will continue to be useful for me.
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