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  1. crystal_maiden
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    I can only speak of the cold turkey method.  I have not tried other ways.  I went cold turkey because I didn’t want to give up one nicotine infusing thing (smoking) by replacing it with another (patch, gum, etc.).   I feel the MINOR thing is ridding the body of nicotine.  The MAJOR thing is breaking the habit:   the after eating habit, the with a cocktail habit, the driving in the car habit, the bored habit, the between chores habit.

    They say doing the same thing for two weeks creates a habit.  Ok, so I’ve been smoke free for two weeks now.  Have I created a new habit?  Well, yes, sort-of.   I have created new distractions that have taken the place of old habits.  So, the junk drawer is organized, the laundry is all done, that bedside novel is actually getting read, the sewing is going gangbusters.  Things are moving forward and I’m confident in my quit.  

    But, how did I even make it this far?  It’s all a mind game and it all comes down to this:  You have to want to quit.  You can’t be told, can’t be made to feel guilty, can’t be forced.  It’s YOU that has to want to be a non-smoker.  You have to make the decision.  Ya, I know, that sounds heavy.  And ya, this is all on you.  So, how do you do it?

    You may have to be selfish.  Concentrate on you and your needs only.  Doing this for you is time consuming and energy sucking which sometimes means not doing things for others.  You have to take care of yourself first - at a time like this, sometimes others have to come second.  

    Revel in your success over nicotine.  A day of success, a week of success, a year of success...every day you are nicotine free makes you a stronger person and more in control.  Reward yourself - but stay sharp!  Don’t let your guard down.


    Take the time to look back on where you’ve been, how far you’ve come.  Reflect on your suffering and remember the pain that you were in at the beginning of your journey.  It helps to cement it into your memory so as to enforce the want and desire to never have to go through that again.


    Forward thinking needs to come slowly.  It is sometimes overwhelming to think about the future and how next you will handle all the cravings you may have to face.  Concern yourself with the right now, the current situation, be in the moment.  Get through the now because the later will happen later so no good comes from worrying about it now.  Time actually feels like it’s standing still here in the beginning.  This process drags... Stay current.


    But then... 


    Next thing you know, you are a non-smoker.  Ya, I know, easy to say but so difficult to do!  Are you up for the challenge?  Do it!  DO IT!  It is so worth it.

    C.M.




  2. eagerquit
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    Good Afternoon crystal_maiden,

    You have made some great points about creating new habits. It is actually a new and exhilarating smoke free lifestyle with new and interesting twists. I enjoy going for walks, working out at the gym, playing cards with friends who are non-smokers to name several. My latest gambit is setting up an aquarium of tropical fish, still in progress. These are all new activities since my March quit. Your mention of the right now, current situation brings to mind the writing below.

    Eagerquit

    Yesterday Today and Tomorrow

    There are two days in every week
    about which we should not worry,
    Two days which should be kept free of fear and apprehension.

    One of these days is YESTERDAY,
    With its mistakes and cares,
    Its faults and blunders,
    Its aches and pains.

    YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.
    All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY.
    We cannot undo a single act we performed;
    We cannot erase a single word we said.
    YESTERDAY is gone.

    The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW
    With its possible adversities, its burdens, its larger promise.
    TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control.

    TOMORROW, the sun will rise,
    Either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds,
    But it will rise.
    Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW
    For it is as yet unborn.

    This leaves only one day – TODAY.

    Any person can fight the battles of just one day.
    It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities
    – YESTERDAY and TOMORROW –
    That we break down.

    It is not the experience of TODAY that drives men mad.
    It is remorse or bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY
    And the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.

    Let us, therefore, live but ONE day at a time.
  3. crystal_maiden
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    Thank you eagerquit... 


    That really hit home for me.  Great words that are so true.  I was in tears 2 sentences in.  Ah yes, the emotional roller coaster that comes along with quitting...  I had forgotten about that part.


    We learn from our mistakes, smoking being one of them.  So, as we learn from our yesterdays, we go forward making smarter decisions, choosing better alternatives, and making our todays happier.


    I keep this saying close:  If I have just one, I’ll be right back where I started.  Where I started, was desperately wishing I was where I am today.  


    Today is a great place to be.  


    C.M.
  4. lillian, quit coach
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    You both have such valuable insights.

    Thank you for the inspirations!

    Lillian
  5. dublinguy
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    This thread hits deep. But so true. 
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