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  1. grannef
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    I haven't smoke for almost 6 weeks now, but finding it increasingly difficult without support. My doctor is thrilled and very supportive. Saw him this week and have a followup appt in one month. My husband is not supportive .. not that he doesn't want me to quit, but ignores what I am going through .. my problem, not his. Am now trying nicotine gum to control cravings with morning coffee which I am not prepared to give up. Bad headaches if I don't have at least on cup in the morning. Would really like someone to lean on for support.
  2. atp
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    11 Sep in reply to grannef
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    Hey grannef,

    Congrats on 6 weeks being smoke free, and yes the struggle to keep your quit can be very hard at times. 

    At this stage you are mostly dealing with the mental side of the addiction - and that is the hard part to get over. You are trying to learn how to be a non-smoker and that takes a lot of effort. It took me months to break the 'habit' feelings - like constantly checking my jacket pockets for smokes before leaving the house. Coffee was another trigger, it took me a lot of effort to get past the feeling of needing a smoke with my coffee. 

    So lets work on you learning to be a non-smoker. Some things I did was I changed the cup I used for coffee, and I changed the brand of take-out coffee I'd buy. I also cleaned my car and house ot get rid of the stale smoke smell. Going to the doctor for a check helped too - my BP was back to normal at 8 weeks!!!. I started to ride my bike. 

    The nicotine withdrawal is basically over - you now need to work on evicting that addict from your head. And yes that addict will manifest itself in some pretty good physical symptoms such as anxiety, shortness of breath, sweats, you name it. You just need to take a step back and calm down and breath deep for a few minutes. I used to talk out loud to myself about why my quit matters, it helped me, although I did get a few odd stares in the mall one day. 

    I took up making steel cut oatmeal in the morning - would take a god half hour of standing over the stove stirring those oats trying to make the perfect oatmeal. In that time I was so focused I didn't think about smoking. 
  3. treepeo
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    Hi grannef,

    Congratulations on being smoke free for 6 weeks.  That is terrific!

    Like you, I refused to give up my coffee.  I enjoy it too much.  But it stopped being a trigger for me within about a week as I recall.

    I think for you right now, it's the mental and emotional challenge of quitting that is getting to you.  I'm sorry that your husband is not more supportive of your efforts.  But how about your friends, or other family members?  Have you tried talking to them about your quit, what you have been through and how you are feeling now?

    You can also post here as often as you want.  And you can call the quit coaches when you feel the need for further support or guidance.

    One final thought.  Have you given yourself a reward for making it this far?  If not, you really should.  It doesn't have to be a big thing.  Just something to acknowledge all of your hard work that got you to this point.  Remember, quitting smoking is the best thing you could ever do for yourself.  You should celebrate this amazing accomplishment.  You are becoming a non-smoker!  Yippee!
  4. grannef
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    Thank you for the reply. I'm managing, but looking forward to the day when having a cigarette is no longer on my mind when Mr. Grumps is having a bad day.
  5. grannef
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    My GP is very supportive and although he's only practising half time now (serious trail bike accident) he will see me frequently as he knows my husband often lives in his own world and there won't be a lot of support there. He also suggested rewards and I'm going to do that. Waiting until I have saved enough for something substantial as I'm determined to be in this for the long haul.
  6. treepeo
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    That sounds like a great idea, grannef.  I used the money I saved in my first year to go to Mexico.  What a treat that was!

    While you stash away all that extra cash, why not give yourself at least a little treat now and then?  For example, I would treat myself to take out for dinner once in a while, or I would buy a computer game I wanted.  Just a little something to provide positive reinforcement for staying smoke free.  

    I am happy to hear that your GP is so supportive, grannef.  And you should be really proud of yourself.  You are doing great!
  7. ocean
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    Hi Grannef, it's so frustrating when our supports can't take away our addiction, it would be lovely if they could.  But get mad at the addiction instead, that's why you feel so frustrated, anger can be a great motivator.  When nobody in your everyday life gets it, come here because someone in this community will have experienced the same feelings and resentments that you're feeling.
  8. nadia b, quit coach
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    Hi Grannef, I am so happy that you have found support in this community - everyone in similar boats giving advise how to tackle the rapids and waves until it's smooth sailing. Keep up the amazing work and definitely reward yourself. Enjoy the time you have; the time you don't have to worry about if you have cigarettes, if you have your lighter, when you can go have another cigarette....you can now enjoy smoke-free moments with loved ones, pamper yourself, anything - the world is your oyster!! Keep up the amazing work!! We are on the sidelines cheering you on!

    Woot Woot!

    Nadia B
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