06 Feb 2020
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I've just had a chance to catch up on your posts.
Making a quit stick is tough. I always caution people not to get complacent, because just when you think everything is okay, you get that urge and bam, it's a struggle. I still get the occasional urge, even after 5 years. Like a few days ago, I was a bit down in the dumps having to deal with the side effects of the chemo and I thought, wouldn't it be nice if I could have a smoke without it having any harmful effects on me? But of course, that's not the way it works and I immediately squashed that idea. But it did pop up in my head. Sometimes we reach for something that provided us with comfort in the past, even though it was a kind of false comfort, because it was just the addiction making us feel good. And smoking is one very powerful addiction.
It is going to be difficult for you to live and interact with a smoker on a regular basis. However, focus on the negatives you have noticed. The dry mouth, the effect of his smoke on your eyes and chest, the stench left on your clothes, hair and body from his cigarettes. It really is disgusting.
And listen to Fisher Guy. He's counting on you to stay the course. Don't let him down. I remember when I was first quitting. My special quit buddy was wimporswim, and any time I was tempted, I thought of him, and how I didn't want to let him down. His quit was just as important to me, if not more important, than my own, and that really helped to keep me going. Fisher Guy needs to know he's not in this alone at this stage of his quit. He needs you to stay smoke free.
Keep on going, dublinguy. You can do this. Believe in yourself. I am rooting for you!